How do you handle things that go wrong when they happen? Things out of your control are going to happen, and it's in those moments and usually shortly there after where your true character comes out. Do you smart off, get upset, and get frustrated, or do you show the joy in your heart, become understanding, and work through to a positive resolution. Others are watching you on how you handle things when the situation didn't go as you planned. It's in these moments where others are expecting you to react, that true modeling the way for others happens. Plan now how you will respond in "those" situations so when they happen, your only response is what you already previously decided how you would respond. I think you would agree that it's the right thing to do.
Have a dream and make it happen. Martin Luther King, Jr., is a great example of dreaming big, casting a vision, sharing his dream and vision in a thought out and well written speech, and then working to make his vision and dream a reality. What is your big dream that you need to cast a vision for and work to make a reality? Share your big dream with your spouse and/or your closest friends to get prayers and support and then work to make your dream a reality. It's the right thing to do and it models the way for the next generation, like MLKJr. "So when Peter saw it,, he responded to the people ... Many of those who heard the word believed; and the number of the men came to be about 5,000." -Acts 3:12, 4:4 Like I said yesterday, trust is the doorway to like. If you trust someone you'll eventually like them if you lose trust in someone or don't trust someone, then you'll typically overtime end up not liking them. This revalation came to me over the past several days and even though I blogged about it yesterday, I think the point is worth reviewing again today. Whether it's a personal relationship or a professional relationship, if there becomes an issue with trust, then depending if it's a good experience or a bad one usually determines if you end up liking that person or not. Think back to the last time you can recall where you didn't trust someone...then fast forward time at least six months from that reference point in time and if you were then asked "do you like that person?" I would be surprised if your answer was anything but no. If trust truly is the gateway to liking someone or not, what can you do to build trust or repair trust in that relationship where trust is lacking? I would recommend first that you pray for and about that relationship, pray for your heart and their's, and then have a conversation with that person where you both become transparent and discuss and work through your real and valid feelings. Seek to understand the other person before asking to be understood. If you learn to discuss and confront situations with love and pray about it first, you will be surprised at how a softened heart, praying for the relationship, and some healing time after the right spirit led conversation can mend many relationships and work to rebuild trust. I challenge you to examine the relationships around you by checking your level of trust for those in your inner circle or those closest to you. Work to build and strengthen your trust for those in your inner circle and commit to mend if at all possible any relationships with trust issues anywhere around you. It's the right ting to do and it models the way for those around you. In order to build trust over time, you need to say what you mean and do what you say. After all I believe that trust is the doorway to like. What I mean by this is that if you trust someone, you eventually will like them. And if you don't trust someone, you eventually end up not liking them. These are key principles to live out and model the way for others. What does "being in the moment" mean to you? To me in today's world it means putting down your cell phone or your smart phone and being all there. It's not being preoccupied with what's on your phone or who's calling or texting. Your children and spouse, long for the attention you give to your smart phone. So next time you are around your family, put away your smart phone and be in the moment. It's the right thing to do and it models the way for those you love. When was the last time you were so excited you couldn't sleep? Was it before a big event? trip? concert? Find things to get excited about for both you and each of your family members and then make those events happen. Being so excited about an event that you can't sleep will help make a memorable event even more memorable. Also that event will then become a favorite time that you will look back on with excitement and be another great cherished memory with your family. It's the right thing to do by creating great family memories and it models the way for others. When you present, or deliver a message...do it to an audience of one, Jesus. Remember you work for the Lord so don't get nervous in front of a group of people. Instead present as if you were just presenting to Jesus and only he was in the room. Block out any distractions, clear your mind, speak from your heart with passion, be dynamic, cast vision, be confident, speak the truth, be impactful, and close out your message with style. You never know what an impact your message delivery could have on someone. It's the right thing to do for everyone in the audience and it models the way with others. Eight years ago a mentor of mine told me, whenever you need to present a message to a group of people, make sure you run through you presentation at least seven times. By practicing your presentation at least seven times, you become familiar with the material, message, inflection and tone that you need to deliver the message and make an impact on the audience. By following this simple advice, along with taking some public speaking classes in college and also with my company, I have been able to deliver impactful relevant messages. I share this advice with you today to help you become a more impactful leader and presenter. It's a better way to prepare to present and it models the way for others. Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth..." -Genesis 1:26 |
"Modeling the Way" BlogMark A. Watkins is a Region Sales Manager in the Midwest with Rollins, Inc. and strives to Model the Way as a Sales Leader, Teacher, Visionary, Innovator, Problem Solver, Coach and Mentor. Archives
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