If a variety of people you know and don't know we're asked if you were nice what would they say? Are you pleasant, fun loving and enjoy a good laugh? Are you loyal, happy or a joy to be around? OR would they say you are uptight, stressed or worried. Would they say you were serious, not nice or had to have the last word in...no matter what the conversation was about? Think about how you would like to be viewed by those that know you and how you would like to be perceived by those that don't know you. Your attitude on the outside that others see is a direct reflection of what is going on inside. Think on these things and decide who you are and who you want to become, as an individual and even as a couple. Define your roles and your vision for yourself and each other. After all it's the right thing to do and it models the way for others.