What are your favorite memories from your childhood? What memories are you creating with your spouse and also for your children? Work to create special memories, first with your spouse and then with your children. Understand that before you had children and after they finish high school and go off to college it will just be you and your spouse. Make sure your cherish that relationship first, and then your children after. Work to create special memories that can help you sustain and reflect during the tough times. Plus, its the right thing to do and it models the way for others.