Make sure that you fully understand someone that works with you or for you before you have a conversation about something that you personally find destracting or unprofessional. It could just be their "thing," and without fully understanding that person, you could crush their spirit. I am constantly learning and several days ago, I think I may have just done this. Unbeknownst to me, I had a conversation with someone I like and respect that I work with and I told them that "their thing" was distracting and not professional. You may have heard me say or read my blog "seek to understand, before being understood." Well I failed to do that. I have had conversations with my mother about her being more opinionated and set in her ways as she gets older, but I didn't realize I was doing the same thing to a person from the next generation. In my own house, we have a rule...when we hurt someone, we have to confront the person we hurt, own up to what we did, look them in the eyes, and tell them: "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you. Please forgive me." And that is what I will doing next time I see this person. I may not understand, I may think it's distracting (to me), but the fact that upon reflecting on the situation that I may have crushed someone's spirit goes against who I am and what I believe, more than anything else. Make sure that you don't crush anyone's "thing" or spirit and when you hurt someone, make sure to tell them you are sorry, that you didn't mean to hurt them, and ask them to forgive you. After all it's the right thing to do and it models the way for others.