Find a babysitter you trust and feel comfortable with. As you date your mate, find the right babysitter that you trust and feel comfortable leaving your children with. It is very important to date your mate, but it is also very important to find the right babysitter so you can date your mate and not worry about your children and be in the moment on your dates. Make a list of what is important for your babysitter. Like knowing CPR, responsibility, etc. so you can leave, not worry, and go have a good time with your spouse. Learning to trust your children with someone else is very important so you can invest time in your marriage after you have children. After all, giving up control and trusting someone else with your children is the right thing to do and it models the way for others.