I give feedback all of the time, and as my manager Tony says, "Feedback is a gift."
Giving honest, blunt but professional feedback with examples is how I have learned give feedback. When feedback is consistently given customized to each individual based on how they are wired and it comes from the heart, it is received better by individuals. When someone receiving feedback knows that you care about them and their growth and becoming better than they were before they knew you, the bluntness of the message fades. It then becomes the person receiving the feedback's decision to decide what they will do with the feedback they just received. I have discovered this to be true...You may not agree with the feedback and brush it off, but if someone takes the time to give you feedback their thoughts, observations, and ideas are valid. Even though you may not think them not to be true, it is understanding that their may just be something there that is worth looking at, understanding it, and striving to correct it. It's how I continue to grow, year after year, by receiving honest and sometimes blunt feedback, taking it serious and working to correct it and grow. It's how feedback was designed to work, to see your blind spots and share them and then it becomes your responsibility to correct them and improve. So thank those that give you the gift of feedback so you can become better than you were before you knew them. Thank you Tony, my manager, mentor and friend. Growing is part of life's journey and not a destination, so take the gift of feedback as the gifts are given and do something with them. It's one more step in the right direction of Modeling the Way.
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